Useful and non-obvious #life-advice, from https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/sep/04/oliver-burkemans-last-column-the-eight…
Modified: March 08, 2021.
A single big goal is very difficult and risky to achieve and, in the time you're working on it, you will not have achieved any goals at all…
Modified: February 14, 2022.
This is really the only advice I know of for [ how to make a friend ]. And it works. Invite someone to social events, as you would a…
Modified: July 18, 2022.
Take notes in a personal knowledge manager like [ Roam Research ] or [ Obsidian ] that makes it easy to jot down fragments of ideas and…
Modified: February 07, 2022.
This was one of the beliefs that SuccessfulFriend and I shared (and still share). This seems like a cynical thing to say. But it's not meant…
Modified: January 17, 2021.
One of Paul Graham's heuristics for doing what you love is to 'always produce'. That resonates with me: it's a way to keep yourself honest…
Modified: February 25, 2022.
Churchill, 'My Early Life': Come on now all you young men, all over the world. You are needed more than ever now to fill the gap of a…
Modified: April 25, 2022.
The most important thing to know about aversion (avoidance / fear / ...) as an emotional response is that it's, at best, exponentially less…
Modified: April 20, 2024.
Related to: [ generative vs discriminative modeling ] The difficulty of [ learning new skills ] I remember learning to play the violin when…
Modified: May 01, 2023.
Fiction memoirs of hadrian shogun red plenty name of the wind Cloud Atlas Lord of Light Tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow gay: Giovanni's…
Modified: July 05, 2022.
aka 'little love' or 'big love' or various other things Saved from https://www.carsieblanton.com/blog/post/82149148832/casual-love This…
Modified: February 22, 2022.
"find the thing that makes you come alive, and do that." I find myself thinking about 'giving up' in the sense of dreams of being an…
Modified: February 10, 2022.
Nate Soares wrote an essay a while ago on how he experiences [ self-confidence ] when opining on difficult topics: On reflection, I've…
Modified: July 25, 2023.
https://markmanson.net/how-to-be-confident see also [ imposter syndrome ] and the thesis that a lack of confidence is often an aversion to…
Modified: July 25, 2023.
Multiple people working together are fundamentally more powerful than a single person working alone. Governments recognize this fact, which…
Modified: March 04, 2022.
The [ hedonic treadmill ] manifests in taste for things like wine, beer, coffee, fine cuisine. I've never spent effort refining my taste in…
Modified: July 24, 2020.
What does it mean to 'be yourself'? Selves aren't a well defined thing. Ultimately everything about your self is shaped by your surroundings…
Modified: May 01, 2023.
Academic components: Right view (right understanding): seeing reality as it really is and understanding the [ four noble truths ]. This…
Modified: February 25, 2022.
Innerring (C. S. Lewis). In any institution there are unofficial circles of influence: people who are 'on the inside' and people who are…
Modified: March 29, 2024.
Quit Your Job (palladiummag.com) : Productive exploration requires the application of skilled personal judgment to chasing hunches and…
Modified: February 17, 2022.
From a Jean Yang tweet : I once attended a talk by the late Nobel Laureate Oliver Smithies where he talked about going into lab on weekends…
Modified: August 21, 2020.
Credit to NameRedacted for this refrain https://twitter.com/visakanv/status/1324978566455468035/retweets/with_comments It's a powerful take…
Modified: April 13, 2024.
Should I give up having fun in order to do impactful things? It'd be tempting to think that it'd be more virtuous to be serious and mission…
Modified: April 04, 2022.
If you fail to achieve your goals, you'll be sad---almost self-evidently. Nonetheless: there is no coherent notion of the 'right' goals to…
Modified: July 14, 2023.
Thoughts drawn from my experience doing a CS PhD at a top-4 school around 2010-2016. They may be somewhat applicable to PhDs in other areas…
Modified: February 25, 2022.
things I learned in [ improv ] class there's no need to try to be clever or funny. if you're present and responsive, trust that the…
Modified: September 13, 2024.
I've heard it said, and it's been ringing true to me, that the thing to do is live the life you want to have now , not plan to spend years…
Modified: February 12, 2022.
I don't hold the moral view that it's better to be a morning person than an evening person. Having always tended towards a later sleep…
Modified: March 14, 2023.
When you're thinking about doing something that feels right to you, it's easy to get caught up in worrying about what other people will…
Modified: February 10, 2022.
Toilet: A bidet. Cold water, warm-water (if a hose from your toilet can reach your sink's plumbing), or internally heated. It saves toilet…
Modified: September 25, 2021.
see also (maybe combine with?) [ relationship ] Accept [ bids ] as much as possible. Praise your partner in public (and in private). Stay in…
Modified: July 13, 2020.
https://forum.effectivealtruism.org/posts/QhPyQTXuGt58Nzxnu/you-are-probably-underestimating-how-good-self-love-can-be https://twitter.com…
Modified: October 24, 2024.
Sometimes it's necessary and right to prioritize my own interests, even if [ global utility ] is ultimately the only metric. Developing…
Modified: March 07, 2022.
I need to genuinely care about other people and want the best for them, both in general, and for specific people in my life. Why? Obviously…
Modified: April 01, 2022.
It's not a terrible summation of [ depression ] that it starts from seeing no way to achieve your goals. Sometimes that's because it's…
Modified: May 16, 2022.
What would true wireheading feel like? People have this impression that it'd be thin, exhausting, artificial, ultimately isolating and not…
Modified: March 24, 2023.
This is one of those things that sounds cliche but is still profound and #fundamental: this is all. There's no great reward in the future…
Modified: July 25, 2020.
How to be warm: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1MolmoFuXu4&t=123s
Modified: November 27, 2023.
The "strength of weak ties": most good things in life come from people you barely know. This is because your close, regular connections are…
Modified: April 26, 2024.
A story from [ Dan Brown ]: A group of psychologists came to interview the Dalai Lama, the spiritual leader of Tibet. One of the Americans…
Modified: February 10, 2022.
your writing needs to be at the edge of your knowledge, it needs to address the most fascinating people you know or can imagine. That is…
Modified: October 03, 2023.
Modified: July 10, 2020.