selflessness is rational

I need to genuinely care about other people and want the best for them, both in general, and for specific people in my life. Why? Obviously, it's the 'right thing to do'. What's less obvious is that it's good for me.

When I've gone through crises of self-worth, it's helpful to remind myself that I do see myself as a force for good in the world. My efforts may be insignificant, but they are at least positive. Being able to see myself this way has been very good for my mental health.

When I introduce myself to someone else, I want to feel like I'm bringing something valuable, not burdening them. I want to believe that it really will be good for someone to know me and that I'll be a faithful and helpful friend at whatever level of closeness makes sense.

I'm glad that I've been able to tell a story about my life in most of my decisions have been driven by wanting to have a large and positive impact. Since it's hard not to learn from experience, I'm lucky that I was exposed to this thought early on.