A single big goal is very difficult and risky to achieve and, in the time you're working on it, you will not have achieved any goals at all…
Modified: February 14, 2022.
There is a similarity in kind between the negative effects of: rape slavery feeling forced to work on someone else's projects, by a boss…
Modified: March 02, 2022.
see also [ agent ] agency has two parts: [ yin and yang ]: yang agency: take steps. break apart a goal into subgoals until one is tractable…
Modified: April 13, 2025.
One of the best ideas in machine learning. (I even thought so in 2011!) There are two common mechanisms: 'soft' and 'hard'. In both cases…
Modified: January 24, 2022.
Say you want to make a big personal change: to stop smoking, or to stop eating meat, or to meditate every day, or introduce yourself to a…
Modified: June 07, 2021.
Elephant and rider Asking "what should I value?" is asking the rider. it demands solving impossible moral questions. Asking "what do I value…
Modified: July 08, 2020.
Statements from Forer's experiment : You have a great need for other people to like and admire you. You have a tendency to be critical of…
Modified: July 31, 2023.
I'm sometimes tempted to look back and find patterns in my life, and identify those as "who I really am". For example: maybe I want to be a…
Modified: February 22, 2022.
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The core insight that got me interested: "moments of recognizing your thoughts drifting and bringing them back to your breath" are not…
Modified: October 03, 2021.
Described, among other places, in Unlocking the Emotional Brain . Insofar as much of Buddhism is about dissolving [ samskara ]s…
Modified: February 04, 2025.
(I got this concept from SuccessfulFriend.) As people grow up and form their identities, they need models, and not just models; they need…
Modified: February 22, 2022.
The idea of 'projection' in psychology means to assume that someone else has the same flaws, or foibles, or motivations as you do. It struck…
Modified: February 25, 2022.
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Sasha Chapin describes trauma as a 'splitting off' of difficult or painful experiences as memories that the mind tries to avoid accessing…
Modified: October 27, 2024.
status: a theory that feels true for my personal trajectory. Totally uncritiqued and unverified that anyone else shares this experience…
Modified: May 22, 2021.