Modified: July 19, 2020
identity
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people want to see you thrive
When you're thinking about doing something that feels right to you, it's easy to get caught up in worrying about what other people will…
identity is never fixed
I'm sometimes tempted to look back and find patterns in my life, and identify those as "who I really am". For example: maybe I want to be a…
leaving academia
There's no easy or fast solution for feeling good about leaving academia, because you're giving up some aspect of your [ identity ], and…
true but wrong
A pitfall with relying too heavily on rational deduction is that lots of logically 'true' conclusions are unimportant, or worse yet…
blog posts to write
[ writing inbox ] the privilege of having correct advice work out for you ([ the privilege of advice working out ]) Let's stipulate that any…
pro-social identity
(I got this concept from SuccessfulFriend.) As people grow up and form their identities, they need models, and not just models; they need…
thoughts are actions
The [ agent ] model of intelligence imposes a sharp distinction between the agent and its environment, where the agent 'chooses' actions…
change-signaling event
Say you want to make a big personal change: to stop smoking, or to stop eating meat, or to meditate every day, or introduce yourself to a…
romance is twenty times harder for gay people
About 5% of people are gay, so in any given community it's about twenty times harder for a gay person to find a partner than for a straight…
love is value alignment
What does it mean to love someone? Of course this question has as many answers as there are people, and probably more. But here's one view…
depression
Depression is the worst thing . Why? Ultimately we care about global utility. Depression is literally the state of finding it difficult or…
legible identity
A thing that's tough about going through big personal changes is that it takes a while for your self-model to catch up with your actual self…
wisdom I've acquired
From 2017: wisdom I've acquired: the psychology of depression. :-( and grad school. :-( and being gay. [ dual-process cognition ] theory…